Finding peace among the chaos has saved my sanity. In the middle of a major house move with things swirling in all directions finding peace is a must.
It doesn’t happen by chance, it does not just manifest. It is a conscious choice like any other. Here are a few steps you can take to find peace among the chaos.
Don’t be a super hero
One must prioritize and know how to delegate even if the delegation is to allow oneself to do things different or sometimes not at all. Finding peace is allowing yourself to be okay without being a super hero. Make the list of must do’s but if something is left undone, be grateful for the things accomplished—rather than punish yourself for not completing the chore.
Allow the body to reset
The most important fact which must be implemented, is to allow time, even if it’s only in 5 minute increments to center, to breath, to lower your heart rate. This is imperative specially when doing physical work. Moving for example has given a chance to utilize muscles which as a writer and artist didn’t know existed. In the first few days of packing and carrying the boxes, bending and stretching physically, I was a bit sore. Funny thing is how the body adjusts. Soon, I was carrying heavier boxes and moving at a faster pace. I knew if I didn’t pay attention to this adrenaline rush, it would have caught up with me.
I was “guided” to take a 5 minute break every 40 minutes or so. This peaceful time constituted—sitting comfortably, closing my eyes, focusing on something enjoyable, visualizing something appealing. This short break was my time to breathe deeply, stretch my arms above my head, stretch my legs in front of me. Focusing on my heart beat and breathing in synchronicity, bringing balance and a feeling of peace.
This exercise or break has made such a difference. When a person is going through major change, it is of utmost importance to separate from the situation and create a state of peace among the chaos. It doesn’t matter what the situation is. It could be a change in a relationship. Maybe grieving for someone or something lost. Perhaps, a change in the family dynamics—children going to college or moving out.
Acknowledging the feelings
The chaos doesn’t have to be physical. The emotional feelings attached to change need to be addressed. Getting caught up in the physical action sometimes, lightens the emotional load. This can be a temporary release. The emotions are still there, shoved into the background. If this is your process—diving into the physical work and ignoring the emotional state –it could be detrimental.
Let us take moving for example. We’ve all been there. It is an opportunity to clear, release and move forward. In this process we unearth a lot of memories, some treasures and some things which would be better left in the dark corners of the closet. In moving on and embracing change we must address the situation. Objects retain energy, thus, we need to accept and release the energy—neutralize it, if you will.
When you feel emotional, nostalgic or even sad over a situation, an object or a circumstance in your life, take a moment. Whether the memories and feelings that surface up are positive or negative, just implement your 5-minute acknowledge, accept and release— letting go of the energy and emotion of the object or circumstance. Allow it to dissolve with each breath and be grateful for the experience as you let go. Know the experiences from the past and all the things around us bring us to who we are today. Be at peace with whom you have become, know today is the first day of your new life. Be certain that you are in control of bringing your Inner Peace to the Surrounding Chaos.
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